I am the youngest of three, and the only girl. Growing up without sisters never really was a standout issue for me. My brothers and I were close and as long as I had them by my side I was happy. With my mom in and out the house a lot due to work commitments since I could remember, it was always just me, my dad, and my brothers. We went to school together (we are all 2 years apart), played video games together,watched WWF together, just me and them really.
It never really occured to me how important interaction with other girls were to me until I would say right in the middle of elementary school when I made my very first best friend outside of my brothers. Her and I instantly clicked, and a whole new world of girly things opened up for me lol. Her being the oldest of three girls the ‘girly’ lifestyle was not new to her. I felt a little out of place at times. This new world of talking about clothes, boys, etc. was different. But finding someone who I could relate to, and talk about everything with because they were going through the same things was priceless.
Fast forward to high school when I met my now best friend. We started college together and we were inseparable. They even had nicknames for us like Thunder & Lightning, Strawberry & Chocolate, and the infamous Shorty Red and Tasha Baby (don’t ask lol). I moved away to New York City during college and stayed several years after my graduation, and we still talked every single day, about everything. Family issues, work issues, personal issues I always knew I could call on her and she always had my best interest in mind. I considered her to be more than my friend, but also my sister. We both were even pregnant with our children literally at the same time (our babies were born one week apart), and we’ve been through so many ups and downs together. Of course there were hiccups in our friendship but we wanted to stay committed to the bond we created as friends and always made it our business to be open, honest, and upfront with each other when one of our feelings felt hurt about something the other had done. I knew growing up that I could always count on my brothers, but was blessed to also be able to always count on my sister too.
Looking back on those experiences I can see where my drive to build an unbreakable sister circle and promote the benefits of a sisterhood started. Even at a young age I was able to understand that my best friend was not just my friend but someone put in my life to encourage me, to build me up, to have my back, to be my SISTER. Even way back in elementary school the foundation was laid. When my best friend or I needed someone to talk to, to go outside and ride bikes with, sit and eat lunch with we were there for each other. Now that i’m older I feel so blessed to have built such an amazing circle of sisters. None who were birthed by my parents, but all who were destined for us to be a milestones in each others path to help each other become the people we are today.
Sometimes I get met with curiosity on the purpose of the Beautiful Brown Girls Brunch Club, and have even been told ‘oh it’s just a group of women having brunch every month’ as if it’s no big deal. The core mission of Beautiful Brown Girls is for ethnic women to able to meet new ladies in a non judgemental environment to network, socialize, and grow their sister circle. It’s SO vital especially nowadays when reality TV only shows the world that we hate each other, for our culture to be able to come together as women and be each others rock, anchors, motivational push, someone who tells you the truth whether you want to hear it or not, dependable, loving, and encouraging friend, and to be your sister. So happy to have the opportunity and able to give other women the opportunity to find their long lost sisters every single day through BBG!